It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery why love sometimes grow and it is a mystery why some love fail. You can analyze and look for some reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore then to take life out of the experience.
Love is more the sum of the interests, attractions and commonalties that two people share. And just as itself is a gift that comes and goes in its time, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its way.
Too often, when love comes to people, they try to grasp that love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and a gift that just freely moves away. When they fall out of love or the person they love feels the spirit of love is leaving, they desperately try to reclaim the love that was lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was. They want answers; there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them as they try to get their love to change thinking that if some small things were different love would bloom again. They blame the circumstances. They blame each other; they try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to heart what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle enough with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you toward whom you feel no love, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuses the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain how you deal with love is how love deals with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys even if our lives and ways are very different.
If you fall in love with another who falls in love with you, and then chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning you will know it n time, but time itself will choose the moment. Remember this; keep it in your heart. You don't choose love, love chooses you. All you can do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes to your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it to you. Give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coarse it or reason it into staying. If it chooses to leave from the heart of your lover there is nothing you can do and nothing you should do. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will surely come again.
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